Recently, someone I know was complaining about his work situation to my husband. When pushed to explain why something wasn’t done, he said, “I’m trying.”
“Try and stand up,” my husband said.
“What?” our friend responded.
“Try and stand up,” my husband said again.
Laughing, but not sure where this was going, our friend stood.
“You didn’t try,” my husband said. “You just did it.”
We joke about this scenario often and how my husband is so matter-of-fact. He happens to be a business coach and his philosophy is that you take the word “try” out of your vocabulary.
How many of us get stuck in saying:
I’ll try to lose weight.I’ll try to spend more time with my family.I’ll try to spend less money.I’ll try to jump start that dream of mine.
With language like that, it’s likely that none of those things will happen.
Recently, I’ve been doing my own complaining. I don’t have enough time to work on my novel.
I’ll try to wake up earlier. I’ll try to go to bed earlier. I’ll try to work on my novel a little every day.
Well, trying to do those things turns out to be equivalent to not doing them at all. It’s an excuse. Fortunately, as of four weeks ago, after attending a Tony Robbins workshop, I made a change.
I now set my alarm for 6am. I work on my novel every morning for at least an hour.
This keeps me in flow. This keeps ideas churning, and my mind on the story all day.
I made a DECISION.
You can too.
What do you want to decide and commit to today?